Sad news…

It’s hard to believe it’s only a week since I was last with you because so much has happened since then… and I would give anything to be able to turn back time…  but I’m really sorry to be writing to tell you that my mum died last Monday morning.

Those of you who follow this blog will know that she was taken into hospital at the end of June, as she seemed to have lost the use of her legs and was immobile. We believed it to be temporary as that’s what we were advised, and so she was taken to a nursing home that specialized in rehabilitation. Try as they might, mum just couldn’t walk and she lost her appetite too. In September we managed with the help of social services to get her home adapted and arrange for carers to come in and she came home for two short days, but was completely unable to cope and was rushed to hospital.

The QA in Portsmouth were marvellous, but her condition deteriorated even further and so they organised her move to a beautiful nursing home in Liss, Hampshire. That was on Monday, October 7th, and we were advised that the care she would receive there would be end of life care. My sister Jenny and I spent as much time as possible with her, as did her grandchildren, which was lovely.  Although she couldn’t say much, she still recognised us, so we could share memories or look at photos. The last conversation we all had was when mum told us of a ‘lovely place’ she was going to, and that she wanted us to come with her. We asked her if it was the seaside, and she nodded, and smiled when we suggested what we would bring with us for a picnic. We told her we loved her and she said the same…

The last time I visited she was in a deep sleep and I couldn’t wake her. I sat and held her hand, but for once I was lost for words… I’d wanted to ask her when I should prune my roses; I had wanted to tell her that Honey could almost swim without her armbands and what a lovely time we’d had in Wales… But I did tell her I loved her, as did my sister when she saw her, and when we were all together by her side on Monday morning we didn’t need to say it, because we all knew.

 

Thank you so much for the incredibly kind words of support you’ve written and thanks too for your love and kindness – not just to me, but for mum and the whole family.

With my love,

Ali xx

 

235 Responses

  1. Ali,so sorry to hear that your dear Mum has passed away. Losing your Mum is one of the worst times in life. Take comfort from all the love you had for each other and the happy times. And as a family, stay close and be there for one another as I am sure you are. Be kind to yourself and take good care. With fondest thoughts to you and yours. Lynn. 💐💟⭐Xx

  2. dearest ali, iam so sorry to hear of the loss of your wonderful mum I am in tears as iwrite this thinking of my own mom dad and brother I don’t think you ever get over it but just go on from day to day rest assured she knew you all loved her very much thinking of you all at this sad time lots of love angela

  3. Dear Ali,
    I am so sorry to hear of your sad news and the loss of your beautiful mom my thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time.
    GodBless

  4. so sorry to read your sad new’s. Alison about your mum, she will alway’s remain and live on in you’r heart ❤️ take care xx

  5. So sorry for the loss of your much loved Mum.My heartfelt condolences to all your family.Loved following your wonderful tales over the last few years of all your family get togethers.Keep hold of those memories.

  6. So sorry to hear about your lovely Mum. I lost my Mum a year ago and I still miss her every day. You are in my thoughts at this sad time x

  7. Dear Alison, I am so sorry to dear your terribly sad news. My thoughts are with you and your family, how devastated you must be. It must seem no time at all since your dear mum started to be ill, and how rapidly the decline. You can only take comfort knowing that she now at peace, and she died knowing how deeply loved she was by you all. Treasure the lovely picture of the four female generations of the family, together with your many happy memories. Sending you lots of love. Anne x

  8. So sorry Ali to hear of the extremely sad passing of your mum, what you said took me right back to when my mum was in very poor health (lung cancer) she was in a beautiful nursing home only for a few days before she passed. We were all there for her, although she couldn’t speak we were chattering away to her, just normal day to day things and managed to get a smile out of her. They say Ali that their hearing is the last thing to lose, so i’m sure she would have heard every word you and your family would have said. I know it must be very hard for you at the moment, but think of the good times you had, and remember she will always be with you!

    With sincere condolences. xx

  9. Very sorry to hear of your mum’s passing, it’s not easy when you lose a parent, i lost my mother 23 years ago and i still think of her everyday. Condolences to you and your family. Take care x

  10. So sorry to hear the sad news of the loss of your Mum Ali my thoughts are with you at this time. I’ve followed your blog for years but this is the first time I have commented. I sadly lost my Mum 17 years ago and every day i wish i could tell her something. Love and Best Wishes to you and your family xx

  11. My dearest Ali, You, your sister & your families are in my thoughts. I will write to you. Bless you & your lovely mum. Love from Jo x

  12. So sorry to hear this sad news .. I have followed your wonderful blogs .. our mums are so special.. much love to you and your family.. 💕 xxx

  13. Hi Ali,this is Sue.
    So sorry to hear about your Mum.We lost my dad 7 years ago.
    He had dementia and it was a painful journey we had with him.
    We will always remember him before this dreadful illness took
    him away.
    Love to all your family.

  14. I very rarely write but I always read your blogs and take an interest. I have been following your Mum’s journey and kept her and your family in my prayers. I am so very sorry to read that your beautiful Mum has gone to heaven but very pleased that you were all with her as she went on her journey to the seaside. Sending you all lots of love and I hope that your wonderful memories provide some comfort to you in the coming weeks and months xxxxx

  15. Dear lovely Ali, sending you lots of love and hugs. Such sad news but you have the comfort of knowing you did you best for her and spend the last precious hours with her. She will now be at peace and no longer suffering and she passed knowing she had such a lovely caring daughter like you. My thoughts are with you and your family and lovely little Honey xx

  16. Oh Ali, I would just like to say ,sending huge sympathy to you and all your family. I hope you all take comfort in her knowing how much she was and still is loved. I’m truly sorry for your loss. Xx

  17. Oh so sorry for your loss I thought something was wrong had a feeling ,hope your coping ok it’s hard as I well know but time heals as they say at least you all got to say goodbye and be with her, by what you said in your previous blog she was getting weaker wasn’t she. I will be thinking of you all try to keep your chin up with love Loraine xxxx

  18. So very sad to hear of your loss Ali. Thinking of you and your sister, & all your family at this time. Much love x

  19. Oh Alison, my heart goes out to you and your family – just remember she is still with you in Jack and Lucy and Honey and cherish your time with them. Take care xxx

  20. Dearest Alison, my heart goes out to you and your wonderful family for the loss of your darling mum. I can feel for your sadness Alison, as I lost my most precious mum last July, its so heart breaking. God bless you all, you will be in my thoughts and prays. Take care.

  21. I am so sorry for your sad loss – even knowing that someone you love may pass away soon, does not diminish the distress and pain you feel at losing them.

  22. What a beautiful, peaceful ending for a wonderful lady. ‘ May the road rise up to meet her’ (anonymous Irish quote). My condolences to you Alison and your mother’s family and friends.

  23. Beautiful ending to what must have been a beautiful and joyful life. Condolences to you all especially Joe as he starts a new life without his beau

  24. So sorry for the loss of your lovely mum Alison.I lost my lovely mum a couple of years ago nursed her for 6months she passed of cancer I miss her so much lm sure you will be the same Big hugs xxx

    1. Ali I’m so sorry to hear your sad news. Your Mum was loved, cherished and adored. Although she couldn’t communicate, she felt and knew this. What a wonderful women and daughter you are. Such a beautiful photo of four generations. Honey is a lucky girl to have such role models in her life. May all your memories bring you comfort in the days ahead. I write this on 1st Nov, (All Saints day) a day to honour and pray for the dead. May your Mum rest in peace.
      Fran x

  25. Sorry for your loss, no words can express how it feels. I lost my mum years ago & I still think of her. Chin up , she will always be with you.

  26. Dearest Ali, so very sorry to read of your loss. My deepest sympathies to you and your family at this very sad time. It’s always so hard to find the right words to help soothe the pain but I hope knowing that you are being thought of and wished peace of heart and soul helps just a little. We are never prepared for that final goodbye even when we know it’s coming, I know I wasn’t with my parents, but knowing they were at peace helped just a little. With love and condolences, D ❤️

  27. Alison, I am so sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing your Mum and missing her so much and wanting to tell her things that happen. You just have to be grateful that you had your Mum for such a long time and have so many happy memories. Take care xx

  28. Hi Ali.
    I’m sitting in tears 😢 reading your sad news.
    I lost My Lovely Mummy on the 14/05/19 at 1710.😢 5 mins after I left the ward. She waited till I left.
    I’d been her carer She was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia in February but that’s not what she died of. She was rushed in to hospital on 13/05/19(My Birthday)She had a blockage in her gut which not going into details caused Pneumonia. They wanted to operate, but she deteriorated so quickly they end up after a big meeting Consultants etc. Placing a DNR.
    I miss her big time. But Mummy still knew Me.
    She enjoyed QVC and buying things in previous years Me too.
    Lots of Love Ali😘😘
    Julia X

  29. Hi Ali,
    So sorry to hear of your mums passing.

    Sending much love to you and yours at this very sad and difficult time. 💞💞💞💞

  30. I am sorry to hear about your mum l believe she will be ina better place pain free and will be able to keep an eye on you all.love to all of you

  31. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. Mum’s are unique people, when their time comes it’s devastating but a great mum is always a part of you and with you. All my love and hugs.

  32. Am so sorry to hear your sad news. ….my mum died recently so I know how you feel. ..sending you love and blessings xx

  33. I am so very sad to read your news Alison. Nothing can prepare you for the loss of your mother. But in the days and weeks to come you will be comforted by your memories and the love that you obviously had for each other.

  34. I’m so sorry, Ali 😢. Such a poignant and loving end to your mum’s life which brought me to tears. She was totally surrounded by the love and care of her family and she knew that, even if she couldn’t express it in words. Sending love and peace to you and asking God to give you his comfort in your very sad loss.

  35. Dear Alison, so sorry to hear your news. My love and thoughts go to you and your family. Lots of love Jane xxx ♥️

  36. Dearest Ali!
    Please accept my sincere condolences for the loss of your Mum, also to the rest of your family. Reading your blogs these past years, she was a lovely lady, and I’m glad all the family were able to
    spend time with her.
    Love as always xxx

  37. So sorry to hear the sad news about your mum, it is so hard to come to terms, you try to be strong for your children but not so, nothing anyone can say will make it easier, there are times when it hurts when you cannot buy cards like Mother’s Day, birthdays and Christmas you hear people mean I have to buy a card for my mum or dad I could slap them and say I wish I had my mum to buy a card for be grateful you still have them I don’t mean to upset you just being truthful and also next couple of months will be hard with Christmas. I send you big hugs and take care of yourself, 💋 xx

  38. Alison, I am so sorry to hear about your mum. My condolences at this heartbreaking time. My mum died almost 9 years ago and there’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think of her. Take care of yourself and take time to remember all the good things in life. Your mum was obviously adored by you and your family. You were both very lucky to have each other in your lives.

  39. My dear Alison I am so very sorry for your loss and the utter devastation that this brings to your family and friends. Your mum’s passing seems peaceful, comfortable and dignified, something that will comfort you in the coming days and weeks. My love and thoughts are with you all and Joe at this very sad time. Maryxx

  40. Oh Alison. I was so very sorry to read about your Mum. I wondered if something had happened as I hadnt heard anything or seen you on my tv. You did your best for your Mum and now she is at peace. Sending you and your family my sincere condolences and many hugs. xx. Shirley xx

  41. Alison So Sorry For Your Loss ,Your Mother Is Free !And Gone To A Better Place ,God Bless Her Soul 🌟🌹❤️No Pain 🙏❤️❤️❤️

  42. My heart goes out to you and your lovely Family. So sorry to hear the sad news of your dear Mum, but she has gone to a better place and is out of pain. You look after yourself, Mum would want that and she will look down upon you and watch over you all. We all grieve in our own way, I lost my darling Mum in 2005 and I am still grieving, it doesn’t go away but gets easier. I talk to her every day via her photo and she will always be in my heart and thoughts. God bless you and your Family😢❤️🙏xx

  43. Hi Alison I am sorry to hear your sad news. Your Mum was such a happy looking lady and I am sure you will all miss her dearly. She is out of pain and at peace.

    My Dad died end Sept this year and its been very difficult for my Mum as her legs are not great and she keeps falling down etc. I am sad to say she is missing my Dad too much and I have to check on her every few hours by phone as I live in Sunbury and she is over in South London. Its very stressful.

    Your Mum is at rest now and I send you my deepest condolences.

    Karen Witney

  44. Oh Ali, I didn’t know and I’m so terribly sorry for your loss. It’s lovely that you sat with her and told her you loved her. I’m sure she’s waiting by the sea in this glorious sunshine for the time she’ll see you again. She’ll never be forgotten! I lost my mum in 2010 and there’s never a day goes by that I don’t think of her, then I lost my Dad 18mths later. I can sometimes smell my Dad, especially when I’m on my own in the car, look out for little signs, you’ll see them, hear them, smell them when you least expect it. Sending you lots of love <3

  45. I am so sorry to hear that your Mum has passed away, I lost my Mum on the 23rd November 2012,know how you are feeling at this very sad time,My thoughts are with you & your Family & your Mum’s Partner.xx

  46. I am so sorry for your sad news i too lost my mum it is so so hard but Ali she will always be with you looking down .i send my love and paryers to you and your family. jo xxx

  47. Lovely Alison…….she was lovely and I am so blessed we shared some happy memories with her. Feel blessed she is at peace in her favourite place 💕

  48. Hi Ali. I’m so very sorry to hear your sad news. It’s always hard to lose ones parents, especially the last one. On an up side, you have so many happy memories an family is everything. I know you will support each other god bless you and your family. X

  49. Awhh Ali, I am so very sorry for your loss, my sincere condolences. I don’t know what else to say other than keep your chin up as always & be as strong as always, my thoughts are with you. Xx

  50. I’m so sorry to hear your sad news I lost my dad three years ago after looking after him and doing 600 mile trips from St. Helens to Bideford Devon where he live then 60 mile trips to Exeter hospital for treatment for his lung cancer which was in remission I returned home on the Monday and sadly he died of copd on the Wednesday night I’m so pleased you got to be with your mum god bless you your sister and you whole family love xx

  51. Oh Ali
    I’m so sorry to hear your news. I know exactly how you feel and what you’re going through. I’m glad you spent as much time with your Mum as possible. I know it helped me when I lost my Mum.
    Love to you and your family and thinking of you all.
    All my love.
    Speak Soon.
    Julie xx The Girls xxxxx

  52. Heartfelt sympathy Ali. I’ve been there and know that lost feeling. Huge hugs and love to you all. Take care. Judith xx

  53. Alison, I am so very sorry to hear your news. I lost my mum and dad 5 years ago within 8 weeks of one another. A loss definitely leaves a huge hole that nothing can fill. Take each day at a time and don’t expect too much of yourself. We all grieve in our own way . Sending much love x

  54. So very sorry to learn of your mum’s death. It doesn’t matter how old either you or your mum are, it’s always devastating.
    I will always treasure the time I had with my Mum and the many wonderful memories – and I’m sure it will be the same for you.

  55. Aww Alison, I’m so sorry for your loss, I know exactly how you will be feeling, I wrote to you a while back, when you said about your lovely mum, I’d just lost my mum, she is in a much better place now, take care lovely, sending you all hugs xx

  56. This brings back so many memories of my dad’s last days in QA. Whilst this is a terrible and sad time you and your family are going through, just know you will have been the best daughter your mum good have wished for. God bless

  57. Hi Ali I was so sorry to read your blog about your mum passing away I know we don’t no each other but just felt I really wanted to send my condolences ,it’s so hard to loose your mum it’s doesn’t matter how old you are we always need our mum and so my hart goes out to you and all the family lots of love

  58. Dear Ali and all your family., please accept my deepest commiserations upon hearing of your mums sad passing.It brought tears….You very kindly sent me your lovely words upon my mothers passing in late June this year…A similar scenario as you had.I also wanted to nurse my mother at home with help but despite me being a trained nurse it could not be managed due to my injury and disability…Its hard and every day I think of her as I know you all will..lI know QAs hospital very well as my daughter had her treatments there. Aa you know shes a naval nurse based in Portsmouth ..She also resides off London Road, Waterlooville. sending love to you and all your extended family, Tricia .xx

  59. Oh Ali so sorry it’s always awful when Mum goes, it was a song on the radio or tv that would set me off, as I have got older I find some comfort if you can call it that to think she had a good life. Its when a child or young person passes I do particularly struggle with.
    Having been retired for over a year now, I worked with my colleague in the HR office of a large supermarket we did have a few people pass away which was awful enough but most of our colleagues knew they could come into us if they were struggling with any issue we would lock the door sit and chat or just listen to them sometimes just sit in silence doing our work so they could recover enough to continue with their job and it all stayed inside those four walls, or at other times If I knew someone had been bereft or struggling I would just give them a hug no words, and they always just said thank you, it’s so wrong that many firms have diminished the HR caring side of things it went a long way. One beautiful colleague died recently she was 54, from diagnosis it took just 7 months, although she had a small family and just one daughter 140 people past and present that knew her from work came to the funeral which I thought was lovely for her.
    Try not to be too upset lovely lady sending you the biggest hug too. xx

  60. Hi Ali,
    I am so sorry for your loss. No matter what age you are or the circumstances losing a mum is quite unlike anything else. I am so sorry for you all. It was really very sudden which must be so hard to get your head around. You’ve all done so well looking after her and being with her which is all you can ask. I’m so pleased you have that wonderful photo of the 4 generations. Wonderful memories. Take care ali xx

  61. So sorry Alison. A dreadful loss for you and all of your family. Wishing you strength as you mourn & remember your Mum. Xx

  62. Dear Ali, I am typing this little comment fir you with tears in my eyes, I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful mum, I know how you feel as I list my mum a few years ago and it still hurts.You have all your family around you for support at this very sad time.Love Dorothy Xxx

  63. So very sorry to hear your sad new’s. Your mother was very loved by all all of her family and will be missed by you all. You should be very proud of her and of all of your lovely family. May your mother rest in peace. with love, Yvonne x.

  64. Aww Ali. So so sorry to hear about your Mum. Lost my Mam on the 15th of October. It was sudden in her sleep so never got to say goodbye. She was in s nursing home & used to visit her twice a week. Always a kiss before I left & we always said Goodnight god bless. If you are like me Ali just feeling numb & still can’t believe she has left us. Sending you a big hug cwtch & Xxx. 😘❤️

  65. Sending you all big hugs and deep condolences Alison. I lost my mum in 2016 and miss her every single day but know that she never really left me because she lives in my heart, I think your mum will move into yours now. Stay strong and keep talking to her and of her, that has helped me cope and hope it helps you all. X

  66. Hi Ali.I was so very sorry to read your sad news this morning. Take comfort in the knowledge that your mum died knowing how very much she was loved by her family.
    Take care Ali, love Sue xx

  67. Oh Alison I’m so sorry. It is one of the hardest things to happen, your Mum can never be replaced and it is so very sad. I lost my Mum 15 years ago now but still feels like yesterday sometimes. I hope you will always keep the memories alive as I am sure you will have many. She will know you loved her and I’m sure like me you will miss your Mum everyday. Take the time away and spend with family and support each other. Your Mum will always be with you in your heart. Take care and thinking of you , Serena, xx

  68. Ali so sorry to hear about your mum I really know how it feels just remember all the good times you spent with her .My mum died in 2001 and I still miss her terribly . I am thinking of you and your lovely family with all my love to you all Pauline.xx

  69. Dear Alison, I am so sorry to hear about your mum. There is nothing anybody can say to you to make you feel better. I hope she has met up with your dad now and you can think of them together again .sending love, carol s. Xxx

  70. Oh Alison – my heart breaks for you and your family. But you did everything you possibly could for your much loved mum and I’m sure she had a wonderful life and loved you all very much.
    Thinking of you all and sending love. God bless x

  71. This is the fourth time I have tried to write this post. So So Sorry for your loss and sending lots of love and hugs to you and your family. I lost my Dad 10 years ago this December and then my Mam 3 years ago this April. It felt like a huge part of me eas just gone. So many happy childhood times that in our busy life we may not have thought of for some time. But they are actually a lovely comfort and sometimes myself and my 2 brothers recall and remember just little silly things and Ali it is like a big hug from them and you love and appreciate all of the things they did for us/you. My heart goes out to yo my love. God bless. xxx

  72. So sorry my Love for you and your sister I miss my mum every day it wud of been her birthday 22nd Oct and mine 26th Oct you will miss your mum but her Love will allways be in your heart a bond that never breaks Love Nicola xx

  73. Dear Alison I am so very sorry about the loss of your dear and beloved mum. I know how close you always were together and the happiness you shared was a wonderful relationship filled with deep love for each other. I cannot take the pain you are feeling away from you my friend. But if you can hang on to all the beautiful and happy memories that you have shared together. And don’t ever let those go. Your mum will always be with you . And there will be times when you will see signs of this too. And those moments will stay ever precious to you Alison. Take care and stay safe and well yourself . Your strength of character has brought you through so many hardships these past years. But don’t ever feel like giving up Alison. I send you all my love and the Biggest Hug I possibly can. Bless you. With love from Becca XOXO

  74. Dear Ali
    I’m so sorry to hear the sad news about your mom. Having lost my mom after a short illness within 6 weeks I can totally understand how you are feeling..no words can describe how it feels when you loose your mom. For me I feel that I am living a dream and that my mom will call me and say that she loves me like she always did everyday..I really feel for you and your family but just remember all the happy times you spent with one another and all the lovely memories of everything you did together. Take care lots of love Lisa xx

  75. So sorry Alison to you and your family on the loss of your mother and grandmother, no words can express what your all going through but my thoughts are with you all xx

  76. I am so sorry to hear about your Mum. They are so special to us, and no one can ever take their place. My mum has dementia & is forgetting who I am. So sad. Sending you big hugs xxx

  77. Dearest Ali
    Firstly, may I extend to you my deepest sympathy on the loss of your beloved mum the days ahead will be sad with moments of happy times long past but she lives on in all of you.Take her in your heart wherever you go Ali they stay with you for always little signs will show you she’s close Ali 😊a verse I wrote for my dad

    When it’s time for me to go let me sleep and dream

    Look for my eyes among the stars because my love I’ll see you never fear

    When a tear comes to your eyes let it be in laughter of times we shared you and I

    Keep me in your heart my love
    Because I’ll be watching you from above
    Take the love we shared with you there is never a goodbye

    I will see you again my love but for now spread your wings and live as living is a very big adventure and there’s still lovely memories to be made …I will see them with you too …I love you

    Ali may you find comfort in the smallest of things god bless you all xx

  78. Dear Ali, I’m so sorry to hear your sad news of your lovely mum, my thoughts are with you all at this difficult time. I lost my mum on the 31st October nine years ago this week. I just think of all the happy times we had together, I’m sure you plenty of those too. Take care, love Merchex

  79. Dear Alison, my thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. I am feeling your pain. May God bless you and comfort you and your lovely family. Big hugs. Antoinette x

  80. As someone who lost my mam 4 years ago, I was 39 at the time, my mam 61 I totally understand your loss and grief. Sadly my mam passed 3 months after we adopted our daughter. That time was so precious. I miss her every single day but her memory is still strong and she will never ever be forgotten. Stay strong .

  81. So sorry Alison. It doesn’t matter how old you are, losing your mum is devastating. Thinking of you at this sad time.

  82. Oh Ali so very sorry about your mum, you get to an age when loosing a parent is the next stage in life, although it’s unbearable at times concentrate on her wonderful life and the memories she made for you, when my mum died 3 yes ago you had some kind words when I was grieving, look after yourself xxx

  83. Oh Ali, how very sad to read your news. There is nothing anyone can say that will ease the way you are feeling, so I am simply sending you all my love.

  84. I am so sorry to hear your sad news.I lost my Mum in September.She was in end of life care too.Also you and me are both the same age.You are lucky you have a large family.I don’t have a partner,children or Brothers and Sisters,so it has been hard for me on my own.

  85. Alison. I am so sorry yo hear of your mom’s untimely death. I too lost my mom in June in some what similar circumstances. It was hard and still is we all miss her, but I know she is free and at peace,it’s the ones left behind that are suffering. Grieve and cry all therapeutic. It would have been by mom 91 Birthday on Monday 28, again condolences to all your family. RIP

  86. The one constant in your life is your mother. She has always been there. I lost my mother at 37 so remind yourself you are lucky you have had yours so long. Your life will never be the same again. You have your family to support you. And in time when it is not so raw you will think of her & smile. She will be with you every day in the things you do & you will hear her voice when you need her. Sending love & deepest sympathy. Kay xx

  87. So sorry to hear of your sad news , I lost my mum 2 years ago and it’s hard , at least you spent her last moments with her , and I’m sure like she said she is in a lovely place with the sun on her face .. big hugs Xx

  88. Oh Ali I’m so sorry for your loss. I know whatever l say won’t stop the pain your in. I’ve been there myself. You know she knew she was very much loved. My heart goes out to you and your family I will be thinking of you. All my love. 💔💔💔 Viv x

  89. So sad for you alison i watchrd you all through your fight with cancer i have been doing thr same for the last 5 years mums are so incredibly special god bless carol

  90. Alison I am so sorry to hear your sad news and I just wanted to send my condolences. You shared such a wonderful time with your mum and it is that that you will remember in time. Just do what you have to do in order to cope with your loss and when you can you will return to your Qvc family who will support and comfort you.

  91. iam so sorry to hear your sad news . all the love to your family . just think that she is in a nice place . love to you all.

  92. I am so sorry for your loss Ali. I read your blog regularly but rarely comment. Your Mum was so lucky to have such a loving family around her and not just in her final days. You should take comfort knowing she was so loved.

  93. Oh I am so sorry that your mum had passed away it’s not a nice feeling to have lost someone who has brought you into the world. I know the feeling well mined been gone for 8yrs now Alison you are a very brave woman after everything you’ve been through sending you best wishes xxxx

  94. So so sorry to read your sad news…i know what its like,bab,and my heart goes out to you and yours.I think about my loverly mom every day even though its been over 12 yrs since we lost her ,so once again bab im ever so sad for you,god bless ya,Jillian x

  95. So so sorry Alison for your loss .
    There is no one like our mums and when they are gone the world is more silent as those chats we had can not be replicated with anyone else . But please remember you have been blessed with the mum you have and she was your first blessing . A blessing for life . God bless you and support you .
    Joan

  96. Oh my dear Ali ,there are no words anyone can say at this very sad time to make you feel better, eventually it will ease a little but you never forget that sad day as you say all the things you want to ask her, iam truly heartbroken for you it brings back so vividly everything I went through when I lost my mum ,Ali I can’t say anything else just sending lots and lots of love to you and your family ,xxLinda F ❤❤❤

  97. God bless you my dear Alison,
    your Darling Mum is now happy and free of any pain, which a few short days ago, I am sure you would have dearly wished for her.
    At the moment you are raw, lost and broken hearted, but having lived through this with both parents,, I can only wish you what has helped me. A very strong faith, and the knowledge that she is forever on your shoulder, just listen, you`ll hear her!
    with all my dearest love,
    Lynn xxx

  98. So very sorry to hear your heartbreaking news. It’s so tough losing a parent. Thinking of you and your family.

  99. Oh Ali, so sad to hear that, but what a lovely way to pass over. What lovely memories you will have and be able to share. Love to all your family.

  100. Aww my heart aches for you Ali I know what it is like I also have lost my mom, although You will miss her terribly, no one Dan take way the wonderful memories of your life together, these will help you over the months ahead John 5:28

  101. Dear Alison,
    Our lives tick along quite happily then we are hit with Thunderbolt reminding us how special life is and how are parents have raised us to become caring and loving individuals.
    Then in their hour of need we support and care for them as they have done for us.
    My dad had a stroke last year and he is struggling with walking and unable to orally eat.
    I have just returned from North Wales where my dad partner had an operation to remove tumour from her bladder . I am blessed to have a loving husband who supported me to take care of my parents. I do feel for you and I pray you have energy and strength to get through this difficult time of losing your mum. But you like myself have a loving husband you will be your scaffolding to support you . Love to you Dawn.
    and he was able to help with care aspect

  102. So sorry for your sad loss. Any death is difficult but the death of our Mum I think is the hardest of all. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time Ali, stay strong. X

  103. Dear Ali, and family, I have just read your very very sad blog, I am so sorry for you all at this very sad time for you all. All I can say is as I have been through this myself just remember all your beautiful and lovely times that you had with your loving Mum. Thinking of you at this very sad time Love Linda. xxxxxxxxxxxxx

  104. Hi Ali
    Really sorry to hear about the death of you Mum.
    Sending you and your family my condolences.

    Best wishes
    xx

  105. I know exactly how your feeling like someone punched you in the stomach but at least you had the best chance to say goodbye. It’s going to be a long time for you feel better but eventually you will be able to say her name and talk about her with less pain and remember the good times you shared which were many.im not religious but if you are I hope it helps you.

  106. So sorry for your loss Ali i lost my grandma on 23rd May and then my mum passed away 2 weeks later on 6th June so my heartfelt sympathy goes out to you and your family take care love di xx

  107. Dear Ali. So very sorry to hear your sad news. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. Take care of yourself. Love Denise. xxxxx

  108. So Sorry to hear about your mum. As they say you only have one mum. I lost my dear husband of 57 years after a lovely marriage and I know the sadness I feel as you probably do. I know he is not far away and like you I was there with him at the end. Take care and try to thinks of all the happy memories.

  109. so sorry Alison to hear of your mothers passing – i believe your mum did know you were there and shared in the 💘talking about the beautiful place how wonderful
    that she was able to tell you all. at this time take care of yourself – be very kind to yourself enjoy your memories Joan xxx

  110. I’m so sorry to read your sad news. I hope your mum has gone to that lovely place she told you about…. Its incredibly sad to lose a parent, but your mum was so obviously loved and cared for, remember all the happy times because her love for you and your family will have given her a life time of happiness, her passing was only a very very small part it… remember her life not her passing and cry tears of happiness and love for your precious mum. Thinking of you and your family… x x x

  111. Alison,
    So sorry to hear that you lost your mam, heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
    Mams are so special, and I never got to say goodbye to my mam, or to tell her at the end how much I loved her, she just had a massive heart attack and was gone.
    I glad you and you sister and the family were able to say your goodbyes.
    Best wishes to you all, thinking of you.

  112. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. You and your family have loved and cherished your mum and she will remain in your hearts forever, Looking at you photos her face is refelected in all of you; her eyes and her love are there whenevr you look at each other.
    The grief will be painful at first but this will become easier to bear and you can all be certain that she knew how much you all loved her; the way you looked after her is testament to how special she will always be to you. May you all find comfort in your memories and smile at the recollection of special times together throught the years. xxx

  113. Dearest Ali. So so sorry to read your sad news. I can feel the pain and sadness in your words.
    No words will make you feel better right now. But please know your little army is right here. Like we’ve been for many years, right by your side, holding your hand.
    Sending you our love and healing.
    Una, Graeme, Meli and Adam. ❤️❤️

  114. So sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. You are such a strong and brave lady. You constantly show us, that though the darkest & scariest of storms can knock us off our feet, we dig deep and find the courage, hope & strength to get back up on our feet and become stronger than we could ever believe.
    Lots of love, Elise, mum & grandma from Blackpool xxx

  115. Oh Ali, so very sad to hear about your dear Mum. It’s not easy to lose anyone, but Mums are kinda special if you know what I mean. Everyone, I’m sure, remembers the moment they lost their Mum, I do that’s for sure.

    I know there are no words that will make things easier for you, grief is such a personal and horrible thing. I always say that grief is the thing I fear the most, it really is. I just send you a big hug xx

    I’m glad you got the opportunity to tell her how much she was loved. Her legacy lives on in you all and how wonderful that she died as she had lived, LOVED.

    Big hug 😘😘😘 xx

  116. Dear Ali. I am so sorry to hear of your sad news. My heart goes out to you and all of your lovely family. Lovely photos especially the four generations. I am retired now as I am carer for my wonderful husband as he has Parkinsons, I have done many years in the community providing palliative care for so many wonderful elderly ladies and gents.I loved those times as it is a time when all of the families want the best for their loved ones.Hold on to all of the wonderful memories you have of your dear mum , Time is a healer Ali, I am sending you lots of love. Take care. Penny xxxx

  117. Thinking of you and your wonderful mum. Your mum would have known you have always done your very best for her. You are a very genuine, kind and lovely person. I lost my mum nearly 4 years to the day and my dad 3 weeks after her. I always remember the good times we shared and know they are close by.

  118. Dear Alison this is the first time I have ever commented on here but I felt compelled to do so on this occasion. I am so very sorry to hear about your mum just hold onto the beautiful memories you have of her. After everything life as thrown at you, you are a total inspiration and I admire you greatly even if I don’t know you personally. Lots of love to you and your family. Sue Rawlinson xx

  119. Dear Ali, so very sorry to read your sad news. My thoughts are with you and your family. With Love Alison. xxx

  120. NgDearest Ali,
    Words are never enough, but my heart goes out to you and your family at this incredibly difficult time. One thing I am sure of from all your lovely posts ,is that you have a wonderful loving family unit that I am sure will support each other through what is one of the most awful times that life brings.
    May you find the comfort and love you need from each other.
    Love Denise x

  121. Dear Ali,

    Just wanted to let you know how very brave I think you are to share your very sad news with us and to tell you how very sorry I am. You have a very lovely family and I know you will all be a great comfort to one another, your wonderful memories will also help, but I know when I lost my own lovely Mum, she left a huge void in my world and although it was a while ago it helps to talk about her and remember all of the funny little things she would say and do, and quite honestly she is always with us, and I’m sure you will find this Ali.

    God Bless Ali, thinking of you.

    Gwen.X.

  122. Hi Alison, I received your blog a couple of days ago as an e mail but it won’t accept a reply so I’ve been waiting to see it on here, I am so sorry to hear of your loss, it’s so awful and an end to an era, I know you are such a positive person, you will be telling yourself you were lucky to have had your mum for as long as you did, there are so many happy memories but the person with all the old stories has gone, I truly believe that there is m ore, her soul is watching and caring and waiting until you are all together again. I don’t know of anywhere big enough or if it is possible but I believe it, every one we miss and love will be with us again. love ~Maggie xx

  123. Aww I’m so sorry Alison , I follow you’re blog every week , you’re mum looks beautiful and lovely just like you ❤️❤️❤️❤️to you and all the family xxxx

  124. Dear Ali,

    I was so very very sorry to hear the passing of your lovely Mum. However, I can’t help thinking what a lovely last conversation you had with her. In her mind it proved she was content, and in a very happy place with all those who meant so much by her side. Ali, I can assure you she would want you to remember all the happy times you shared with her, but most importantly she would want you to carry on enjoying your life – that would be her utmost wish. Having those words in my mind when my Mum and Dad passed away helped me cope with all the stages of grief, and I sincerely hope these words of comfort will do the same for you.

    Sending lots of love at this difficult time.

    Love from Sue Radford x

  125. My thoughts are with you,,no words…just sending you so much love and remember your mum has only slipped next door,always around you so always speak to her picture every day god bless xx

  126. Dear Alison,sorry to hear the sad news about your Mum.Your family must be heartbroken and you to.My heart goes out to you all,but you have all your precious memories stored in your heart and that is priceless,God bless you all.

  127. My deepest sympathy, I know how you feel, another angel has been sent above, your mum will always be with you all, I know as our dad is with us x x

  128. So sorry to hear about your mum Ali . There are no words to be said to ease your pain . I lost my mother when she was 58 nearly 28 years ago . I think of her every day . Sending love to you & all your family xx

  129. Ali, So very, very sorry. Sending you and your lovely family big hugs, love and strength. God bless you all and your beautiful mum xxx

  130. Good Morning Alison
    I am so very to hear that your mam died. It is a horrible surreal time.
    You’ve had a lot to contend with recently but you still keep smiling. Life can be difficult at times so make sure you take care of yourself.

    Love and God bless
    Lorraine xx

  131. Oh Ali, my heart goes out to you at this sad time. Sending you love and hugs and to your family, your mum looks beautiful in these photos. With much love Marilyn

  132. I am so sorry, Ali to hear your very sad news. Take comfort from the fact you had time to say everything you wanted to your mum and she knew how loved she was. I lost my mum two years ago and miss her every single day. Big hugs to you allxx

  133. Dear Ali and Family

    I was very sad to read of the passing of your lovely mum.

    I am so, so sorry for your loss. The shock of it as I know is extremely hard to bear.

    I lost my lovely, lovely Dad in 2009 and I saw him on the Saturday and on the Tuesday he was gone.

    He passed as he wanted to in his sleep and I was so grateful he got to go the way he wished but it goes without saying that the shock was immense.

    I never got the chance to say goodbye or that I loved him but you did and that is a blessing.

    As we all know the saying “time is a healer” and from my own experience it is certainly true but we never get over the loss of a loved one we just learn to live with it.

    My sincere condolences to you and your family on the loss of your mum.

    Think of all the wonderful times.

    Teresa

  134. Hi Ali. I commented earlier on Instagram. My heart breaks for you. Those of us who have lost our parents (or any loved ones) know the pain and the space left behind. You were a wonderful daughter and your mum struggled so much towards the end. My love to you and your family. There is another bright star in the sky xxxx

  135. So very sorry to hear your Mum has passed away, such sad news, thinking of you & your family. Your memories will always be with you.

  136. Ali, so sorry to hear the sad news about your mum. Cherish the happy memories, you will have them for ever. Love Linda xx

  137. So very sorry Ali, I do know what your going through because my mom died in July. I miss her so much. Remember the good times for which I am sure there were many xx

  138. Dearest Alison, I had tears when I read your beautifully written but very sad post about the loss of your lovely Mum. The photo of the 4 of you is a priceless and beautiful reminder of the love you all share. You posted some lovely kind words to a post I’d left months ago to say I lost my Mum at 4 yrs old, I’m now 56. Daft folk ask how can you miss someone you don’t remember and I always answer because she’s my Mum! There are no words, but remember her and keep those memories close. Love Aileen x

  139. Dear Ali, losing your mam is one of the cruelist things that can happen to you. It feels like you have lost your best friend. I lost my mam 5 years ago this January, I hadn’t seen her for days, but I can only take joy that she was getting ready to go dancing, which was her passion. I miss her every day and think about her all the time. I carry a small guardian Angel in the hope that she is looking out for me. You never get over a death you just adapt to life without them. Hold your mam’s memory and she will be with you always. I’m so sorry you lost your mam.

  140. So sorry to hear your very sad news Alison. Thank you for sharing the lovely photos and precious memories of your beautiful Mum. Thinking of you and your family, may you find comfort from each other xxx

  141. There are no words dear Ali at a time like this so I will just say everyone is sending their love to you at this very sad time take care chin up love Pam xxx

  142. Oh Ali finding it hard to write this. So sorry to hear your sad news. Your Mum is at peace now. You and the family have lots of nice memories and that will help a little bit. Thinking about you at this sad time. Sending big hugs to you and prayers.
    Much love. ❤️

  143. Dear Alison, my thoughts and prayers to you and your family . Your mum is free now and no longer suffering , she’ll never be far away …. in time you will see that .
    Love Sam X

  144. lovely ali I have no words that can make you feel better, I lost my Mum 2 years ago and the pain is just devasting. Even now I don’t think it has sunk in that she has gone, I miss her everyday and sometimes still feel very angry that I cant have a cuddle off her and feel robbed that I lost my mum at such a young age and that will not see her grandchildren grow up!! I know what you and your sister are going through. I cant say that in time you will feel better it does get easier to live with, treasure your memories of your mum and light a candle for her take care lovely lady xxxx

  145. So sorry to hear you’ve lost your mom. Sending love and hugs to you all. Stay strong and remember all the lovely memories of her. She is with your dad now. Sue xx

  146. I’m so sorry to hear you’re news, I did wonder why you were missing from the Q. What a lovely photo you have of all the generations together which is something you’ll treasure for ever. I’m so pleased that all your family had time to say goodbye and when it’s all settled have a lovely picnic with your family by the seaside and say goodbye, with balloons and rockets to launch her soul into the ethos.

  147. Dear Alison and Family.
    I am very sorry to hear your sad news. I know what it feels like
    to lose a Mum.
    When you feel able to, try to look beyond the sadness of the past few months.
    To all the happy, funny and laughable times and memories you have of times spent with your Mum.
    I feel sure she is still around, Watching over you all. There was obviously great love and friendship between your Mum, you and the family.
    Energy like that does not disappear. I do not say that lightly.
    Look after each other and yourselves.
    My thoughts are with you.
    Kind regards
    Myra Basey.

  148. Hi Ali I don’t usually write but always read your blogs and kept up with how your mum was doing. I lost my husband 2 years ago and still find it difficult and then my very best friend passed away in June losing your mum my heart breaks for you.

    There will be another star shining brightly in the sky watching over you and your family and knowing that she is at peace I hope brings you a little comfort.

  149. Dear Ali
    So sorry to hear your sad news. I lost my lovely mother earlier this year after a short illness. It’s very hard. Your mother was obviously much loved. Thinking of you x

  150. Hi alison sorry to hear the passing of your mother she is not suffering any more.if you dont mind me asking how old was she i would say about 81.maybe.
    iam doing not too bad.

  151. Alison, so sorry to hear about the loss of your lovely mum. Thinking of you and sending love to you and your family. xx

  152. Dear Ali, How very sad l was to hear that you have lost your Mother.
    You all tried so,hard to help her while trying to find just what was going on with her being so ill, and this is something that you must remember.
    I remember seeing her photo quite a few times and thought what a truely lovely face she had, and how capable she seemed to be for her age, bless her.
    Kind thoughts, and much love, XxTricia ‘D’

  153. I have missed you on QVC & have just read your blog. I am so sorry to read about your Mum my love & thoughts are with you & your family at this sad time. Always remember your lovely Mum will be watching over you & her love will be with you always xxxx

  154. Just read the news about your mum Alison. I’m so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful life you gave her. I absolutely love the photograph of you four girls together. By golly, how much alike do you all look. Your mum certainly passed on her strong genes, and lives on in you all. I do hope your mum is in that lovely place she said she was going to.
    Sending you love, and a big northern hug. xxx

  155. So very sorry to hear you sad news Alison. My heart goes out to you as I have lost all my family and my husband was the last to go. I am pleased you have a family to spend Christmas with(first Christmas is always terrible) I always hate that time of year as I am by myself and it seems to go on forever. I will be thinking of you all
    and I send all my love for a peaceful time Much love xX

  156. Dear Ali,
    Have just seen your sad news. What can I say that hasn’t already been said. I lost my mother many years ago when I was a child so I do know the pain and sadness you and your family will be going through. We will always have our memories and I truly believe our loved ones will always be with us . It took many years before I could smile after losing my mum at such a young age.( My father re – married and I never got on with his new wife). But I got there in the end . We will always have our memories of happier times which nobody can take away.
    With sincere sympathy and love, Tina S ( S.WALES) xx

  157. So sorry to read your sad news. I lost my darling Mum in 1989 she was just 43. 😓 However, my Grandad had a fall in July this year and could not walk. He was taken into hospital for 2 weeks and much like your Mum was then taken into a rehabilitation home. He stayed there for 10 weeks and then sadly he has had to go into a Nursing Home. Prior to this he was in his own bungalow and at 98 and with the support of us, his family was able to stay there with Carers coming in daily. He really is not well now and has heart failure and renal failure but we have made so many memories with him since his fall and taken so many photos. He is loved so much and I just hope that he never has to suffer. My thoughts are with you and your family at this time. ❤

  158. Dead Ali had missed you on Acc and thought I would check your blog. So so sorry to read that your mum had passed away. She looked such a lovely lady. She will be at peace now and no longer suffering. I know exactly what you are all going through my sister and I lost our dad just last wednesday. It’s hard going getting all the arrangements sorted. Sending you and your family lots of love. Take care xx

  159. Dear Ali I have just finished reading your blog and I Am deeply sorry hear about your lovely mum. Thinking of you and your family. Take care. Caroline. Xx

  160. Dear Ali, so sorry ro read about the death of your lovely Mum. I follow your posts and know she was not in the best of health. Treasure the memories you have cos they will never fade. Sincere condolences to you and all the family. God Bless xx

  161. Alison,I was so very sorry to hear of your mums passing. I haven’t ever written on your blog before but have followed you intently as a close family member was going through the same as you. You gave me and us as a family so much hope and inspiration and proved what an incredibly strong woman you are which i’m sure will help you deal with your loss. Again my sincere condolences to you and your family

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